Proscrastinations and Being Blindsided

So, I have probably 4-5 posts in my head for my other blog, but I want to get down what been in my mind about something that happened to my last week.
First, let me introduce this person, we'll call her B.  She's about a year younger than I am. I met her at "church" my second year in college, and we were roomies on a mission trip to Mexico.  I should have probably distanced myself from her after that trip when she underestimated me going up the mountain, and acted drunk without a drop, but I didn't. She traipsed in and out of my sphere as she pleased, but kept with me after graduation in 2007.  She helped me when I thought my relationship was over, and was afraid for me when big things happened, though she shouldn't have been.  We (R and I) gave her a key to our apartment to take care of Scar the cat.  She would come over, let herself in, and make herself comfortable no matter who she made uncomfortable.  We would defer to her preference when the three of us went out to eat.  I listened to her opinions, her condescension, her whining, what she thought on all subjects, how she felt about her boyfriend, and her insecurities.  I would tell her about what was going on with me, what frustrated me, and some of what I was thinking, but not all.  She would indulge me when I wanted to talk about the wedding, and I would talk about wedding stuff if she brought it up (which she did A LOT).
Well, the last Sunday I had been in Austin and hung out with her.  We talked about meeting up when I got back from visiting my cousin in CC.  Well I texted her the day that I got home 3 times in 5 hours and the last text I got from her was along the lines of "you're too much, I'll drop off your key."  That's it, no explanation, no reason why, just that, in a text.  It's very reminiscent of Berger and the Post-It a la SATC.
Come to find out the next day, she had un-friended me on facebook (something that she didn't even do to her ex-boyfriend), and stopped following me on twitter. She says to "not create drama" which is the exact opposite of what doing that does. 
She gave R lots of reasons why, including, but not limited to:

1. I've become increasingly more negative-even more so in the last year (not true, but if you're only looking for bad things, that's all you're going to hear),
2. I would yell at Rob when she's was there and it made her uncomfortable (hey, I get frustrated, I raise my voice, but I have NEVER full on yelled at R in front of anyone),
3. I would then precede to tell her "what I was going to do to him" when we went out-after I yelled at him in front of her (she would ask how we were and I would express my frustration-this statement also makes it seem like I beat R, which is ABSOLUTELY not true), 
4. I was ALWAYS talking about the wedding.

Let's address number 4:

• I am always scared to DEATH that I talk about the wedding to much, scared to DEATH.  I don't want people to think that's all I think about, because it's not.  I'm over it, I know what I want, it's all in my mind, all decisions that can be made without paying for things have been made, I really have nothing more to say about it.
• B would traipse into my apartment and grab the first magazine on the pile of my mail. More times than not, it was a Brides magazine, which she would sit and look through, and then ask me about things for the wedding. Many times it was things that she liked that I didn't.
• She would also come in and watch what I had on TV--DVRed TLC wedding shows that I had missed during the week because I have complete control of the TV on the weekends with R at work. I would not say anything about my wedding, just if I liked one thing or another.
• She would bring up wedding things out of the blue, not at my prompting.

The worst thing though, out of all of this (well besides the allegations that I beat my fiance), is that I didn't value her opinion and that I would talk at her not to her.  On the at not to-that's the DUMBEST thing I have gotten. This is all in how you listen, and how you want to take things in. I don't talk at people, I abhor people doing that to me, so I don't do it to others.  The "not valuing her opinion" pisses me off the most.  It was because of her opinion that I stopped hanging out with a friend that I had longer than I had been friends with her. Your opinion can be valued, even if a person doesn't agree with you.  I don't like the ideas she had for my wedding (long white dresses for the bridesmaids), I didn't like her "who are these people and why should we care attitude" when it came to the shows I had on TV (it's my TV I can watch what I want), and I would correct her when she got something wrong from tabloids etc. None of these were not valuing her opinion, it was simply having my own opinion.

There are other reasons for her to come up with all of this and convince herself that it's true.  I have a few theories on this, but mostly I think that someone said something to her, and that she's upset she can't do what she wants this summer (including BS camp).  My mother says that it's likely because I wouldn't give her a free weekend at the condo(which is what she would need in order to go because she works M-F), and that I wouldn't plan it for her.  I think that it's a combination of all of it, and the reason she gave R for why she didn't say anything to me about these things before now is because she had just come up with it. 

I just feel hurt by it, completely blindsided by the whole thing.  I feel abandoned, and like I was led on.  This was the girl who had put herself in the position of my Maid of Honor-the girl who I could most rely upon.  She was supposed to help me and be there for me, then she just STOPPED.  I felt like I wasn't worthy of being someone's friend, she made me feel horrible about myself.  I realized something though shortly after that.  She shouldn't have that power, she's not worth giving that power, and that I have great friends around me.  The rest of them might be just as busy as I am, so seeing them is a little harder to schedule, but totally worth it.  I'm so happy that E has taken me back, and I can't say how accomplished I feel when we hang out-something always gets done, and she respects my opinion and understands that on many things I have my own, but disagreeing is NOT disrespecting, or disregarding.

I wish her peace and some kind of happiness, but I don't think that she and I will be friends again. I have my friends, and she'll find more, but not by burning bridges.

Good Night world, I love you!